Free Resources

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The Wheel of Life workbook

Ten areas of your life, scored honestly, and one shape at the end that shows you where the gap is. Fifteen minutes with a pen. If you don't know which part of your life to deal with first, start with this one.

The Four Shields quiz

Eleven questions. Tells you which way you learned to protect yourself, and what that costs you now.

When it's about someone else

Love or Trauma Bond

The 9 Moments You Pull Away

Nine moments where love and a trauma bond stop looking the same. If you've ever wondered why the good days feel so good and the bad ones feel survivable, this one.

The 9 Things They Do That Aren't About You

For when you're the one waiting on someone who pulls away. Nine behaviours, and what each one is actually protecting.

The other side of the same thing. For when you're the one who goes quiet, and you'd like to know why before it costs you another relationship.

When it's about family

The 10 Walls

What you built to survive the house, and how to put one down. For anyone who was the one everything got pinned on.

When it's about saying no

The "No" Map

A people-pleaser's guide to saying yes to yourself. For the yes that arrives before you've checked whether you had it to give.