FREE COURSE
You're not behind on everything
You just can't name which part. Eight short lessons that find it.
There's a chair in the bedroom that's never once been empty. There's an excursion note on the fridge that's been there a fortnight. Neither of those is the problem. All of it together is why you can't answer when somebody asks what's actually going on.
So you start on all of it on a Monday, and by Thursday you've stopped, and now there's a word you use on yourself about that as well.
Ten areas, scored out of ten, and one thing to work on. That's the whole course.
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Eight lessons, the workbook, ninety questions and ten tools. Free, and it stays free.
No card, no catch, and nothing's held back for a paid version.
Why you can't name which part
Because you're not looking at three problems. You're looking at one problem, three times.
Ask what each of your lowest scores would need in order to move up a single point, and nine times out of ten the same answer turns up three times. Time. Energy. Money. Or one other person actually being available.
That thing usually isn't one of the ten areas. It sits underneath all of them, which is why working harder on the worst number doesn't move it.
You don't have three problems. You've got one bottleneck wearing three hats.
The course finds that first, then has you pick one area against it. Not against the worst score.
How to score the wheel of life
You score ten areas of your life out of ten, on how satisfied you are with each one right now. Centre of the wheel is a one, the outer edge is a ten. It takes about ten minutes. What comes out isn't a report card, it's a location.
Four rules decide whether the wheel is useful or just polite.
The four rules
1. Score how satisfied you are, not how it looks. Not how it'd read on paper to somebody else. Not what you'd say if your mum asked.
2. Take the first number. The second one is the number you negotiated up so you'd feel better, and it'll cost you the whole exercise.
3. Nobody's reading this. There's no version of this where an honest 2 is worse than a generous 5.
4. Don't finish the sentence. "But other people have it much worse." That isn't perspective. That's the sentence talking you into a higher number.
If your wheel comes out close to a circle, you fudged it. A bumpy shape is the correct result.
This isn't a diagnostic and it isn't therapy. It's a way of working out where your next hour should go.
The ten areas
Each area now carries the prompt from the workbook. Bold label on the left, the sentence on the right, same two column layout you've already built.
Money
What's coming in, what's going out, and how much you have to think about it. Score it low if you don't want to look at the balance.
Career
The hours you're paid for, and whether they're going anywhere. Score it low if something goes flat in you on a Sunday afternoon.
Health
Sleep, movement, food, and how your body feels at 3pm. Score it low if you're tired all the time and can't work out why.
Fun
What you do for no reason other than you enjoy it. Score it low if you can't remember the last time you laughed properly.
Home
The physical space. The clutter, the noise, the state of the place. Score it low if someone saying they'll pop in makes your stomach go.
Community
The people who aren't family and aren't work. Score it low if you're always the one who has to organise it.
Family
The people you're related to, and the ones who feel like it. Score it low if you need a day to recover afterwards.
Love
Your partner, or the absence of one, whichever applies. Score it low if nobody knows the actual state of it.
Growth
Learning something. Getting better at something. Score it low if you keep starting things and stopping at the same place.
Purpose
Whatever makes any of this worth doing. Score it low if the days have gone flat rather than bad.
Most versions use eight. This one splits Family from Love, because for a lot of people those are two completely different scores, and puts Community and Purpose back in, which the modern eight area version dropped from the original.
And the part nobody else does
You scored something a 3. A 3 out of what?
There's a picture in your head of what a 10 in that area looks like, and it's fully furnished. You know what's on the bench and who's in the room. Nobody ever sat you down and agreed it with you.
Lesson three finds where you got it, what it cost the people who actually lived it, and the word you use on yourself when you look at that part of your life. Then you score the area again against your own definition instead of theirs. It usually moves two or three points.
You didn't fall short. You were handed somebody else's definition of a good result before you were old enough to question it.
Every other version of this exercise stops at the score. That's the difference, and it's the reason the course exists.
Ten areas, scored honestly, and one thing to work on.
What's in it
Eight video lessons, four to seven minutes each. Under an hour of video all up, and about twenty five minutes with a pen to get your wheel and your one thing. The video is me telling you what the work is. The work is the course.
The course: Eight video lessons. Watch in order the first time, then come back to whichever one you need.
The workbook: Nineteen pages. The wheel, the four scoring rules, a definition and a prompt for each of the ten areas, and the pages that turn a shape into one decision.
The Questions: Ninety across the ten areas. Four to check a score, five to work out what to do about it. One printable file.
Four worksheets: Whose Ten Is It, the thirty day tracker, the protocol for the week it falls over, and the ninety day re-score.
Ten tools: OOne for each area. A thirty day declutter for Home. An expense audit and a budget for Money. A meal system for Health. A stay or go sheet for Career. Scripts for Family. A check-in for Love that works whether you're partnered or not. Reconnection openers for Community. A values card sort for Purpose.
Access: Lifetime. Yours to keep, including anything I add later, and you come back and re-score at ninety days.
Who it's for
People who feel behind on everything and can't name which part. Usually carrying more than one person's share of a household. Usually with a list of things they've started and not finished.
If you've already thought other people have it much worse, that's the sentence this is written for. It turns up in all ten areas, and it arrives right in front of the true one.
It's written in Australia and spelled that way. The course, the workbook and seven of the ten tools work anywhere. Three use Australian services, so the council waste dates, the ATO record keeping and the supermarket comparisons are the real ones.
What it isn't
It isn't therapy, and I'm not a psychologist.
It isn't a course about goal setting. That's the most written about topic in this category and there are better people to learn it from.
It isn't a thirty day transformation. You aim for one point of improvement in one area, because a 3 doesn't become a 10 in a month and your brain already knows that.
It isn't a wheel with a perfect circle as the target. A bumpy shape is the correct result. If yours comes out round, you fudged it.
Why it's free
Because it's the first thing I'd do with you anyway.
I'm building one to one coaching, and a wheel is where that starts. Every coach uses one. I'd rather you turn up already knowing your shape and which area you picked than spend the first hour of a session working it out.
There's no catch and nothing's held back for a paid version. You make an account, you get all eight lessons and every file, and you keep them. If you never speak to me again, that's a completely fine outcome and you've still got the thing.
What I get is your email address, and if you tell me, which area you picked.
Common questions
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Under an hour of video across eight lessons. The scoring itself is about ten minutes and checking your three lowest is another fifteen. So one sitting if you want it, or one lesson a night for a week.
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No, the workbook works on a screen. Printing helps for two things: the wheel, and the thirty day tracker, which only works if it's somewhere you walk past every day.
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The first time through, yes. Each lesson uses the one before it. After that, come back to whichever one you need.
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Then you've got a wheel and you know which area to start on, which is most of the value. Lesson eight will still be there in ninety days if you want it.
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So the course remembers where you got up to and you can come back to it in ninety days. It's the standard site login. You're not buying anything and there's no card involved.
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Once a week on a Wednesday, plus four emails when you first join. The unsubscribe link is at the bottom of every one and I won't take it personally.
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No. I'm not a psychologist and this isn't therapy. It's a structured way of working out where your next hour should go. If what comes up is bigger than that, it's worth talking to someone qualified.
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It's an old coaching exercise, usually credited to Paul J. Meyer in the 1960s, and coaches have used a version of it ever since. What's different here is the second question. Every version scores you. This one asks what you've been scoring yourself against.
You're allowed to start on one thing. The other nine will still be there in ninety days, and setting them down on purpose is a different act from ignoring them.
Ten areas, scored out of ten, and one thing to work on.
Not ready for the course? The articles cover the same ground one piece at a time.
If things are heavier than a wheel can hold, please talk to somebody.
In the US, call or text 988.
In Australia, Lifeline is 13 11 14.