What to do when your avoidant partner pulls away
When your partner goes quiet, you can read the gap all night and still know nothing new. This book doesn't ask you to read it. It shows you what you do when the silence starts, and gives you one different thing to try each time.
It's for you if your partner goes quiet or pulls away, you're still in the relationship or you're not sure about it, and you want to work on your own side of the silence. It's for any partner, whatever your gender or theirs.
What's inside
1. What's going on when they go quiet
2. Does it mean they don't love you?
3. What you do when you reach for them
4. Know, guess, need: the first ten minutes
5. Asking for a time, not an explanation
6. What's yours and what's theirs
7. Your side of the table: what you need
8. Staying, leaving, or not deciding yet
A message arrives: a three-page section you can use on its own, the day a message comes after a long silence
9. When it isn't safe
10. One different thing: your next two weeks
What you get
One zip file with two copies of the same book:
- a phone-sized PDF, laid out for reading on your phone
- an A5 PDF, for printing or reading on a tablet or computer, with room to write on the exercise pages
Save both files to your device when you download. The link expires. If yours does, email hello@heyitsnardia.com and I'll send a new one.
What it won't do
It won't tell you whether to stay or leave. It won't diagnose you or your partner. It won't promise they'll come back, change, or tell you what they feel.
Who it isn't for
Stop here if you're afraid of your partner, or you're thinking about hurting yourself. This book can't help with that. Call the service for your country on the page at the back.
It also isn't for you if you want to win someone back, or you want to work out whether your partner is "an avoidant".
The support page at the back lists services for Australia, the United States and the United Kingdom, checked October 2026.
About me
I'm Nardia Barrett, an Australian coach. I'm a coach, not a therapist. This book isn't therapy, and it isn't medical, psychological or legal advice.
Price is in Australian dollars. If something's wrong with the file, email hello@heyitsnardia.com and I'll replace it or refund you. The details are on the Refunds page.
What to do when your avoidant partner pulls away
When your partner goes quiet, you can read the gap all night and still know nothing new. This book doesn't ask you to read it. It shows you what you do when the silence starts, and gives you one different thing to try each time.
It's for you if your partner goes quiet or pulls away, you're still in the relationship or you're not sure about it, and you want to work on your own side of the silence. It's for any partner, whatever your gender or theirs.
What's inside
1. What's going on when they go quiet
2. Does it mean they don't love you?
3. What you do when you reach for them
4. Know, guess, need: the first ten minutes
5. Asking for a time, not an explanation
6. What's yours and what's theirs
7. Your side of the table: what you need
8. Staying, leaving, or not deciding yet
A message arrives: a three-page section you can use on its own, the day a message comes after a long silence
9. When it isn't safe
10. One different thing: your next two weeks
What you get
One zip file with two copies of the same book:
- a phone-sized PDF, laid out for reading on your phone
- an A5 PDF, for printing or reading on a tablet or computer, with room to write on the exercise pages
Save both files to your device when you download. The link expires. If yours does, email hello@heyitsnardia.com and I'll send a new one.
What it won't do
It won't tell you whether to stay or leave. It won't diagnose you or your partner. It won't promise they'll come back, change, or tell you what they feel.
Who it isn't for
Stop here if you're afraid of your partner, or you're thinking about hurting yourself. This book can't help with that. Call the service for your country on the page at the back.
It also isn't for you if you want to win someone back, or you want to work out whether your partner is "an avoidant".
The support page at the back lists services for Australia, the United States and the United Kingdom, checked October 2026.
About me
I'm Nardia Barrett, an Australian coach. I'm a coach, not a therapist. This book isn't therapy, and it isn't medical, psychological or legal advice.
Price is in Australian dollars. If something's wrong with the file, email hello@heyitsnardia.com and I'll replace it or refund you. The details are on the Refunds page.
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